It’s usually an instinct that happens to you in the blink of an eye – and you get this feeling that something is off with your relationship. About half of the people who get this feeling decide to look the other way. Why? They’re not ready to face a reality where life isn’t so perfect after all; that a dream relationship could just be a one-sided affair.
Here are some of the signs that cheating is happening behind your back. If cheating is going on, whether you can recover as a couple would depend not on the extent of the cheating, but on whether you can forgive and forget the betrayal and if the other party is willing to rededicate to the relationship.
A Lying Tongue
If your partner or spouse is starting to get caught with tiny white lies and showing feigned forgetfulness, it’s time to start doing a little digging. Some people like to take the aggressive stance and question their partner when they slip up or start to fumble. The usual sign that there is something to worry about is when the person being questioned starts to get angry unreasonably and shuts up. Of course, that person could also be hiding a secret like a surprise for you – so tread carefully.
A Tired Tongue
According to research done at the Oakland University, unusual frequent oral sex from your partner could be a sign of cheating. The study included 231 male volunteers in relationships who admitted to an increase in just oral sex when feeling guilty about sexual infidelity. At the same time, the study indicates that men can tell if their partner has been cheating based on oral sex through what Oakland study co-author, Michael Pham, calls “sperm competition. It’s the male version of gut instinct. The study is simply a heads up although not confirmed by any other research.
The Missing Cell Phone
If your partner starts sleeping with his or her cell phone close by or stops leaving the cell phone lying around, you might have a reason to be suspicious. That is, unless your partner has been doing that since before you met. However, usually a level of comfort develops in a relationship where mobile phones are treated like an extension of the relationship. For instance, “Can you get that call?” or “Can you check my messages?” is an open sign that there is nothing to hide. Once a person stops doing this and even rushes to the phone on first ring/beep, you have to wonder why.
Finally, keep in mind that these are just warning signs that could mean nothing but a secret that your partner may be planning for your birthday, anniversary, or special occasion, so don’t be too quick to judge. Observe and keep quiet because eventually a cheating partner will stumble.