Finding a man who you are really impressed by is difficult, and to date him is one more complicated matter. Dating a man varies in your culture, gender, age, so on in life. However, there are still a lot of helpful commonalities which you can apply to get dated and keep dates interested in you. And it is also the main topic of my honest How To Date A Man article today. So are you ready to discover this complicated but interesting issues now?
Ok, my article guides you to approach the issue through 3 main parts. And below are them in details:
Part 1 of 3: Getting Ready for the Date
There are some advice that you should follow before getting ready for the date:
Look your best. In fact, we all want to show off our best features all the time, which make we feel more comfortable and confident. And showing off and flaunt body type is the most common and effective way in term of this. There are five different type of body, they are pear, apple, triangle, hourglass, and rectangle. Every type comes with certain best feature which you can follow for your best image possible.
Be intriguing. This advice guides you how to keep him wanting more. Never talk too much in small conversations before the date. Instead, answer his questions wisely so that you can build a deeper conversation later.
Learn about his interests and let him entertain you. Your dating will be much easier and funnier if you get to know his interests. This will help to make endless amount of conversations for your date and it will also be much more helpful if you find common interests with him through conversations like that.
Act flirtatious. Act flirtatious is considered one of the most effective tool to get a man’s attention. Men often enjoy being flirted with because they feel more confidant and here he can start a playful demeanor for both parties. But one thing to remember is that spite of a fun game, don’t overuse flirtation or you can be involved in a bad love game. And a recommended way to be flirtatious is to tease. Remember, teasing doesn’t insult, but means to bait in a flattering or sensual way.
Know what to wear. Dressing properly is very important in the date, making you look and feel comfortable in the selected environment. Date environments are so various, from fancy restaurants, to casual movies…etc. And I know that you never want to go to a movie theatre in a cocktail dress!
Apply natural makeup. Definitely, nobody wants to see a girlfriend with a mask of makeup on. So let’s make yourself look beautiful naturally so that there will be no surprises for later. You should just put on basics and avoid heavy layers and bright eyeshadows.
Stay calm and confident. Ok, never let yourself feel flustered and nervous. If you are over-excited or overwhelmed, your blood pressure will increase and you will probably behave improperly. Remind yourself that this is just another normal night of fun.
Part 2 of 3: The First Dates
In this part, you are advised to:
Maintain a light-hearted and genuine charm: Declare your undying love in this stage is such a silly thing. Other people will have not very good impression on you. So keep your conversation fun and excited without mentioning to romance and long-term future plan. Remember that you are just in stage of learning about each other, so rather than profess your love, make him attracted to you by your own charm and confident character.
Continue showing interest: you can make some signals to make him understand that you want this relationship to last longer. Let him know how much you enjoy getting to know him and you are having a really great time with him. To gain this, let’s be careful with any words you are going to talk. As mentioned earlier, you don’t want to seem too neither clinger nor distant. So it he asks you if you would like to meet him again this week, respond with some sentences like “I would really like that” ( avoid the “love”, or you can use a more flirtatious sentence, like “ I suppose I could squeeze you in (plus a little wink or a cute smile”. Don’t make him feel that you are always available or he will probably think that you are waiting for dates with him so much.
Prepare interesting date ideas on your own. If your first date goes well and there seem to be open to have more dates. Don’t reluctant to suggest a new place and new fun idea as well. It is a good idea to have date in new places; it can be a chance for you to get to know more about the person in a different scene. You should suggest something which you think that both of you have interests in or something that he has never tried before. Some suggestions you can refer to include: Going on a hike, taking part in a sport event, or taking a cooking class.
Suggest a double date. if you date is going incredibly well and you see a very potential perspectives in the future, you can totally suggest going on a double date with some of your close friends. This is an ideal chance to transitioning your current relationship into something more. Having your friends around, you can see whether or not his behaviors change, and how it change. Then you can decide whether you want to the relationship with him or he is really the guy you have been looking for and you don’t want to seek any other ones. This case is also applicable in situations of his friends. If you meet his friends by accident, or go on a double date with his friends, you can take this change to see whether he is the same as guys who portrayed you before or he is different and he is the one you are looking for.
Part 3 of 3: Taking It To The Next Level
This parts has some suggestions as follow:
Be open and honest. If you think that it is time to talk more about your current relationship, let’s feel free to be open and share with him about your wish to make it a steady thing. After a few weeks, you can tell him that you would like if the two of you could see each other more regularly. This also gives you some evidences to check whether it is worth or risks continuing dating him before getting into deeper or getting your hopes up too high.
Avoid using unapproachable conversation starters like, “we need to talk” or “can I ask you something”. Instead, you can say something like “I have really enjoyed my time with you and I wanted to see if our feelings are mutual.”
Keep calm and patient if he is not there yet. This is not a signal that he wants anything to end. It is probably that he has not been ready for a solid relationship as you are. Each person has his own past which could remain some negative thoughts. Maybe your man needs certain time to gain his own trust in love. So don’t respond hurriedly or it could result in the fact that he doesn’t want to continue with you.
In case he tells you that he is not ready for a relationship, but still wants to see you, don’t feel rejected. You can reply “That is great and I would really like to keep getting to know you as well!” maybe your patience and loyalty can give him truth and he will get comfortable to continue dating you.
If he seems to be ready the next level, don’t overact! The next level here is where you begin spending more time together and get to understand each other more deeply. Remember that this is just the beginning and never make it more than what it should really be.
Just have fun. One of the most important things to keep a relationship warm is to continue bringing fun to each other. Of course, there are some important moments or periods that you really need to be serious, but then, try to make things funnier and funnier and more and more exciting. You can do all of the intriguing and flirtatious things that you did during your first date. Never stop them due to the next level that you are in.
Keep things exciting with new ideas or weekly events. You should always make plan for every day so that you can spend time together for an exciting date, no matter what it is.
Ok, here are some of helpful suggestions that will be likely to present you a successful date with a man. I myself apply them and now enjoy happiness with my dream man. I think you can do the same, even greater if you follow these guides carefully. Are you ready?