There is no shortage of relationship advice available today. The Internet is full of it, for one, but what is the best advice? When it comes to dating, marriage and relationships, who should High school is a huge jump from the comforts of middle school. In many cities, teens find that their best friends from middle school go to a different high school. That also means that a ton of new people from other middle schools may be merging into your new high school — just like you. It can be a little stressful preparing for high school, but it’s a super exciting time, as well.
The first rule of advice for starting high school:
Attend your freshman orientation! Orientation gives you a chance to see where your locker is, get a feel for the layout of the school, meet some of your teachers and some of the other new students.
The second rule of advice for starting high school:
Leave your insecurities at the door. It’s normal to feel a little insecure when you realize that you’re going to be among the youngest people in the whole school. Be you, no matter who “you” is. High school can be rough for a lot of girls, but one of the best-kept secrets is that you are your own worst critic.
The third rule of advice for starting high school:
Get interested in your subjects, whether you think they’re important or not! Most of the stuff you learn about is important but, frankly, a lot of it won’t be relevant in adulthood. What’s the point? Learning how to learn is a key aspect of being a successful adult. Your future career and any advancements you’re after will require you to be able to research, memorize certain facts (just like you will when you cram for your history final), build timelines, analyze various aspects of business and relationships — these are what make adulthood.
The fourth rule of advice for starting high school:
Organize EVERYTHING. High school is a little more strict about being prepared for class, assignments and exams than middle school; college is a little more strict about it than high school; and your adult career is much more strict than college.
The fifth rule of advice for starting high school:
Be nice, be kind, do unto others, you get the picture. High school is a chance for you to really make long lasting friendships and connections. At the same time, you will drift very far from many of the other students, but those that remain in your life may surprise you when you’re in your 30s and 40s. Plus, many people that could be vital in your adult life down the road are sure to remember if you were a bully.a woman trust for advice?
Men of the 21st century tend to largely be on the same page about relationship advice for this day and age. Of course, not all pieces of advice work for every relationship, which comes to the first rule of advice for women:
- Listen to your gut and make your own relationship rules — with your man — instead of listening to advice from everyone else. Note: Your relationship is your relationship. It’s not your sister’s ex-relationship, your boyfriend or husband isn’t the same as your coworker’s ex or current partner, etc.
- Talk about your problems together, not with your sister, not with your best friend, not with other people. Period. Note: Women have an uncanny ability to know how a man is feeling or what he is thinking. Unfortunately, we’re often wrong. Even if we’re right, what does that say to our man when we assume these things without digging for the answer and showing genuine care and concern for his feelings.
- Be comfortable with yourself before seeking out a relationship. Note: Relationships in the 21st century (and for the past few decades) are based on mutual respect. A relationship is going to work better if you truly want each other and you don’t need the other partner to fill emotional voids, help out financially or anything else.
- Forget the “fixer-uppers.” Men aren’t projects. Note: If you’re constantly thinking “He would be perfect if he would [stop watching football every Sunday; give up golf; make more money; had better friends; etc].” Love him for who he is and accept his hobbies, friends and sense of style. Note: Expecting change is wrong on so many levels. Note: Your relationship isn’t a RomCom.
- Hollywood can make relationships seem like anyone can have the perfect relationship. Note: Your life isn’t a Hollywood movie, your boyfriend isn’t the character played by [insert your Hollywood crush’s name], and your Hollywood crush ISN’T that character.
Basically, you need to take the relationship by the horns and fill it with honesty, trust, communication and love. Anything less just isn’t worth it. Your perfect relationship is built on you and your partner and the way you handle the differences, conflicts and life.