Today, Americans enjoy an average of 11 years of marriage according to the latest statistics and 90% of marriages end in amicable divorce arrangements. According to the National Vital Statistics System of the CDC states that divorce rates have dropped in the past 10 years. In 2011, it was 3.6% for every 1,000 persons compared to 4% in the year 2016. Based on these, it is encouraging to know that more couples are willing to work out their problems than resort to a quickie divorce after facing a few obstacles in the relationship.
If you are at a crossroads of questioning your commitment to your marriage or the commitment of your spouse, you should know that the right thing to do would be to decide if you are willing to work on saving your marriage. If you are, then it is possible even if your spouse is undecided. The question of divorce can be asked but should always be the very last action to be considered because for every problem, there is an answer. You may not see the answer which is why marriage counseling is recommended for most couples.
Marriage Counseling, Really?
It’s isn’t uncommon for one spouse to hesitate seeing a marriage counselor but this is one of the best ways to get a new perspective of your marriage from someone who is objective and experienced. Picking the marriage counselor simply means finding someone that both parties feel comfortable with and believe in.
Other Ways To Save A Broken Marriage
The marriage counselor can only do so much. Most of the work will still have to be long after the sessions are over. It requires commitment, patience, determination, and love for your partner.
No One Is Perfect
Understandably, expectations are usually higher than reality and at one point in a marriage, both parties will realize that they married someone very human with shortcomings. Can you accept each other’s weaknesses and not use it to bash each other? Can you see someone who is human instead of someone who is flawed? Once you get past this stage and accept each other’s weaknesses as part of who they are, you will reach a new level of patience and understanding.
Staying Honest and Open To Communicating With Each Other
So much trouble happens because a couple stops talking to each other. This has nothing to do with sharing one’s day rather sharing one’s dreams and concerns. Communication between a husband and wife has to be on a level different from ordinary friends and it can only happen the more often you talk to each other.
Learning To Compromise
Did you know that by learning to compromise, you learn to accept and forgive? If you want this from your spouse, you should be willing to give it as well. Yes, in some cases tit for tat is important but not use as a point of argument but to cement a relationship.
Finally, the most crucial part of being married is not giving up on your relationship. The bottom line is that there were vows said for a reason. That reason was love so if you believe in your love for each other, then you will both stay committed to the marriage and this will save your marriage.